Feminist weddings
Jessica Valenti of Feministing has reassured me of my feminist credentials. She talks about her decision to get married and makes a point that she didn’t have a cliched romantic proposal involving rings or getting down on knees. Well, I can go one better than you, Jessica, as my marriage proposal didn’t even involve the long talk that yours did. This is how it went:
Other half: What do you think of getting married?
Me: Sure, it’s something I’d like to do.
OH: When would you like to do it?
Me: Err, I dunno. Next summer?
OH: Okay, great.
Me: Cool.
OH: Would you like a ring?
Me: No.
OH: Would you like a cup of tea?
Me: Okay.
Ms Valenti is also boycotting the white dress. I think she’s mad. The white dress is the only reason to have a wedding in the first place. Otherwise, you might as well show up at the registry office in jeans and trainers so you can blend in at the pub later. No way. I’m keeping my fairytale wedding dress, thank you. I think we can rest assured that its symbolism has long been dead and buried and that it’s just, like, sooo cool now.
Ahhhh – but what will your fairytale wedding dress involve?
| Posted 6 months, 2 weeks agoPuff sleeves, silk lace and golden brocade.
| Posted 6 months, 2 weeks agoyou can wear what you like obviously – that’s the point! but many people don’t actually like the whole fluffy white dress idea – but its imposed upon them.
of course you don’t really mean the white dress is the only reason to have the wedding in the first place – don’t you. its weird how so many people come out with this platitude – jokingly or not – i mean who gave them the right to monopolize marriage? Lots of people enjoy the hoopla – but that’s good for them. Some people want to get married – or need to – for legal reasons – or the fact that it is still the no.1 social institution in the world in terms of impact – and they want to do it that way. i think what’s interesting about the whole ‘marriage’ thing is it shows up traditionalists – i.e. the people who want to keep traditions the way they were and not let any ‘innovations’ through. i.e. Marriage – in OUR mind – is THIS – and if you want to get married, you should do THis or That, too.
The no. of people who still ask me why i have not taken my husband’s surname -is incredible.
| Posted 6 months ago